Case Study: When There’s a Will, There’s a Way
About a year ago, I was contacted by a woman who needed help finding a will in her cousin’s apartment. Unfortunately, her cousin had died alone and was found only after the neighbors smelled an odor and called the police. My new client, who we’ll call Sandy, was in the midst of a conflict with […]
From Rolling With the Punches To Regaining Resiliency
Occasionally, life throws us so far out of our comfort zone we often don’t know how we’ll ever find our way back to normalcy, even when what we’re experiencing is positive. At best we find ourselves celebrating a new beginning like a wedding or the birth of a child; at worst we find ourselves facing […]
Creating a Practice for Getting Organized
I often feel as though people think of getting organized as a chore or a task; something that you can accomplish if you buckle down and block off a whole Saturday. There is a perception that organizing simply involves space, stuff, garbage bags and willpower. Yes, at times, getting organized can include some or all […]
Check the Owner’s Manual
Wouldn’t it be great, if we each were born with an Owner’s Manual? Not only would parents be relieved of the burden of trying to figure out the mysterious being they’ve made a commitment to love, care for and nurture in perpetuity, but each of us would already have the answers for how to love, […]
Lather. Rinse. Repeat.
Replacing Resolutions With Resolve, Part 7 It is said, that if you want to create a habit or a new behavior that lasts a lifetime you have to practice it religiously for 30 days. If this was true for everyone, all of our New Year’s resolutions would be achieved by January 31st and the process […]
Cold Turkey
Replacing Resolutions With Resolve, Part 6 Almost 30 years ago, my dad decided to stop smoking cigarettes—a habit he’d acquired in his youth. At the time, I was a teenager and not wholly aware of how he’d successfully transitioned from smoker to non-smoker. So, I recently asked him about his process and how he’d accomplished […]
All Carrots, No Sticks
Replacing Resolutions With Resolve, Part 5 Last week’s article explored the importance of creating a network of people to support you on your journey through the process of change. In the discussion that followed, readers’ comments highlighted the fluidity of support network membership. I neglected to mention that we need to be mindful if the […]
Building Your Network for Success
Replacing Resolutions With Resolve, Part 4 Last week’s article focused on listing the various resources that can help you throughout your journey toward change. The comments made on the article showed that people use a variety of tools, inanimate and animate, to keep themselves on track. The tools mentioned by commenters were a prioritized To […]
The Right Tool for the Job
Replacing Resolutions With Resolve, Part 3 The first month of the New Year is rapidly coming to a close. If you imagine the year as a 365-page book, how’s the story going so far? Did your book start off with a bang? Or is it unfolding slowly and methodically? Are you writing your book or […]
Keeping the Wind in Your Sails
Replacing Resolutions With Resolve, Part 2 It is a well-known fact that the simple act of making a resolution delivers an energy boost that often lands folks smack dab in the middle of a gym membership. And when that burst of energy that spurred action fades, many are left with a membership, yet no motivation. […]